Why do women cheat? The simple answer is because they hurt. They have pain related to loneliness Los Angeles Lakers Throwback Jersey , the rejection and betrayal of a cheating spouse, an unexciting and unsatisfactory relationship, or feeling poorly about themselves.
Why do women cheat? Because of emotional needs not met and the hurt that accompanies this lack. Is it sometimes just physical lust? Occasionally, but I do not see much of this.
Loneliness is one of the primary reasons that women seek out affairs or are susceptible to advances. Women who are in an unsatisfactory relationship may feel even lonelier than if they were still single. A partner who is over involved with his work or hobby may severely limit the attention and admiration he gives to his mate.
She then feels unattractive, uncared for Los Angeles Clippers Throwback Jersey , and hopeless about getting her needs met. While this is a reason for working harder on the relationship, not seeking relief from another man, it is easy to understand the pain that makes the whole thing possible.
And then there is Revenge. I am seeing much more of this as a motive in recent years. Today's woman is not willing to just sit still and "take it." Unfortunately, the "eye for an eye" approach has become more acceptable and a woman who feels betrayed and rejected may well return the favor.
Sometimes a woman needs only to hold a suspicion that her partner is cheating to be susceptible. She may have painful memories from other, earlier relationships in her life Indiana Pacers Throwback Jersey , and she may have an expectation of being hurt in this one, as well. This is where a "self fulfilling prophecy" can take over and create pain for everyone.
One reason for a woman's affair is similar to one for men: boredom. An unsatisfying, dull, and predictable relationship that is not growing in depth can make the excitement of a new relationship very attractive.
The affair is not only exciting due to the new person involved, but also to the whole experience of sneaking around and hiding it. This can be a huge adrenaline rush. It's not saying it too strongly to say that it can even be mildly addictive. Women who have multiple affairs may be experiencing this kind of stimulus.
Underlying all these reasons for cheating is a poor sense of self-esteem. We all need an adequate amount of affection and admiration from our partners. One way or another this attention falters at times and the person can become insecure and start looking for the attention is other places.
Women can especially have this problem since our culture puts so much emphasis on physical beauty Houston Rockets Throwback Jersey , sex appeal, and the ability to attract men. The truly secure woman knows that her value rests not in these attributes but in her depth of character, her spiritual self, and in her self-reliance.
Unfortunately, there is very little in our culture to encourage this self awareness and many women unconsciously find their worth in the attention they receive from the men in their lives. And Golden State Warriors Throwback Jersey , when it is not coming from their partner they are susceptible to receiving it from other men.
Few would say that any of these reasons for cheating are justifiable. Whether it is boredom, self-esteem, revenge, or the pain that relationships often bring, the answer is to go to work on the relationship Detroit Pistons Throwback Jersey , not to have an affair. We can understand the motivations for affairs, but we still know that they are harmful and someone usually gets hurt badly.
So, what are we to do about all of this? Stay tuned. Next week we'll spell it out! Author's Resource Box
Steve Roberts is an experienced Marriage and Family Therapist who shares tips and real life relationship secrets from over 20 years of practice. Married 27 years, he has personally known the peaks and valleys of the couple experience. http:
Article Source:
Volunteers work on the search for survivors at a building that collapsed after an earthquake, in a neighborhood south of Mexico City Denver Nuggets Throwback Jersey , capital of Mexico on Sept. 23, 2017. (XinhuaDavid de la Paz)
MEXICO CITY, Sept. 24 (Xinhua) -- The death toll from a 7.1-magnitude earthquake earlier this week has climbed to 307, the Mexican government announced Saturday.
National Civil Defense chief Luis Felipe Puente said 169 deaths were registered in the capital, adding on Twitter that 73 people were killed in the state of Morelos Dallas Mavericks Throwback Jersey , 45 in Puebla, 13 in Mexico State, six in Guerrero and one in Oaxaca in Tuesday's earthquake.
Mexico City Mayor Miguel Angel Mancera told Saturday's press conference that rescue efforts were continuing at seven of the 38 residential and office buildings which collapsed in the city.
Earlier Saturday morning, rescue efforts were briefly suspended as the capital felt the effects of a new 6.1-magnitude earthquake in Oaxaca, which did not directly lead to any death but with 27 people being treated for injuries.
However Cleveland Cavaliers Throwback Jersey , local media confirmed that two women died of heart attacks during the tremor as they tried to leave their homes in Mexico City.
Autumn scenery of Kanas scenic area in NW China's Xinjiang
Chinese, Pakistani air forces conduct joint drill
Paddy cultivation area in China's Yanbian surpasses 46,000 hectares
China Focus: Beijing-Shanghai railway speed rises to 350 kph
Highlights of 10th China Acrobatics Golden Chrysanthemum Awards
Wildlife paradise: Changtang National Nature Reserve in China's Tibet
PLA Navy frigates introduced to visitors at Port of Antwerp, Belgium
China to build cross-provincial national park for giant panda